How NOT to Talk
A complete list of infuriating conversational tactics: Ad Hominem Variants, Sleight of Mind Fallacies, Delay Tactics, Question As Opportunity, and General Cheap Shot Tactics and Irritants
Worst of all is the “I'm not saying this” ploy.
This is a marvelous way to come off as nice while saying things that would otherwise be considered rude.
“Have I ever brought up the $523.52 you owe me? Never! Have I ever embarrassed you or made you feel bad over it? Have I ever told you how much I need that money? No, I never have.”
“I don't care if other people say you're opinionated (or boring or overbearing, or etc.)”
“I don't want to spend a lot of time on this, but (blah, blah, blah…).”
“My dear congregation, I hate to speak of money matters, but (money, money, money, etc.).”